\"It Gets Stronger\"!

When you first marry, there's so much excitement! First the wedding, then moving in together and being newlyweds. But after some time, problems arise and circumstances may rock your marriage. Now it seems like the love you had when you first married was much stronger then, than it is now. But don't lose sight of what's really happening in your marriage. Contrary to what it may look like, having different issues come up actually strengthens your marriage. And when these different things happen, the love you have for each other not only increases but "It Gets Stronger"!

If there's anything I can tell those who desire marriage, those who are engaged to be married and those who are newlyweds, it's that marriage gets better with time if you do two things; Hold onto Christ and hold onto each other. And even If you miss it in holding onto each other, at the very least HOLD ONTO CHRIST! Because with Him, your marriage can get stronger.

After four children and almost ten years of marriage, I love my husband more now than ever before. Even after the losses, the bad decisions, the disagreements, the separation and the contemplating of divorce, I love that man more than ever and actually would not change a thing. Why not? Because had we not have gone through all that we have, our love would not be as strong as it is today. Let me quickly explain.

Had we not been separated and contemplating divorce, we would not have known the reconciliation power of the Lord in our marriage. Had we not lost our car, we would not have grown in our faith TOGETHER while believing each day for over a year that God would bless us with another one. Had we not been on the verge of losing our home, we would not have fasted and prayed TOGETHER as much as we did during those few months after they delivered the foreclosure papers to our door. Had the doctor not declared that my cervix was open and that I was miscarrying, we would not have reached out to be encouraged and then pray and believe God together against the odds. Had my husband not stepped out and started a business, we would not be living by faith and seeing God do the amazing in our lives EACH DAY as we live "faith to faith"! See where I'm going with this?

EVERYTHING that has come our way has caused our faith, our love, our trust and our dedication to each other to grow. You may say, "It doesn't take all of that to grow stronger together in marriage" and I would say, maybe, maybe not. And I would also say while couples may not deal with the exact same things in their marriages as we have dealt with in ours, every marriage does tend to "go through in order to get to". In order to "get to" where? In order to get to "STRONGER"!

What doesn't break your marriage, makes your marriage stronger. What doesn't weaken your marriage, strengthens your marriage. What doesn't decrease your love for each other, increases your love for each other. We work and fight TOGETHER against ANYTHING that comes to try and destroy our marriage. God gave us the command that what He joins we are to let NO ONE put it asunder. And with the continuous help of Christ, nothing and no one will EVER be allowed to put our marriage asunder...not even us!

I say all of that to say, when things get tough in your marriage and you want to quit, hold onto Christ and your spouse and FIGHT TOGETHER against whatever comes against your marriage. Even if you have to grab your mate by the hand and fight through whatever it is, do it! Don't just let go because what's being thrown at you is unbelievably hard. You hold onto God with your spouse knowing there is absolutely NOTHING too hard for Him to handle and that you can both do ALL things through Christ who will strengthen you. Nothing or no one gets stronger from a "battle less" life. But if you both hold on through each battle, you will both get stronger and so will your marriage. Be Encouraged! #ItGetsStronger

2 Cor 12:9-10, "But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong".

Psalm 46:1, "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble".

Mark 10:9, "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder".

Please share this with EVERYONE! Be Encouraged and know every trial can make your marriage stronger but you must hold onto Christ. God bless you ALL!

Need encouragment while going through in your marriage? Reach out for a 1 on 1 with me now.

~ OEV